SOURCE: Living Free
“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6 NIV
Thoughts for Today
Consistent teaching and training while our children are young can help prepare them for whatever life may bring.
The old saying that actions speak louder than words is so true when it comes to teaching our children. The example we live has much more influence on them than anything we could ever say. Children learn by what they see their parents doing. Living a consistent godly life before them is the best training we can give.
Obviously, we all make mistakes. There will be times we set a poor example. But being willing to admit when we’ve missed the mark can be a positive lesson for our children.
Consider this …
Teach your children a sense of responsibility, how to develop positive relationships and the importance of choosing godly behavior. As they grow, begin to allow them more freedom of choice in issues that won’t endanger them if they take some wrong turns. Even when they make bad choices, they will gain valuable insights and a deeper understanding of consequences.
Our goal as godly parents should be to help our children grow and develop in a way that is pleasing to our heavenly Father. Consistency is vital to this process.
Father, help me to be more consistent in being a godly example to my children. Help me to be humble—and bold—enough to admit to them when I’ve erred. Help me to train them in the way they should go. In Jesus’ name …
These thoughts were drawn from …
Godly Parenting: Parenting Skills at Each Stage of Growth by N. Elizabeth Holland, M.D.
SOURCE: Adapted from an article by Stepping Stones
Some mothers prepare their teenage daughters for premarital sexual activities by helping them with birth control plans. They may feel guilty asking their teenage daughters to abstain from sex outside of marriage, especially if they, as teenagers themselves, did not. Likewise, some fathers may allow their teenage sons to drink alcohol … after all, they did when they were teens … how can they say “no” now?
No matter what mistakes we may have made, that is history. If we have received Jesus’ forgiveness, the past is past. This is today … and God is calling us today to train our children in the way they should go. The way that is pleasing to Him.
But for your message to have real impact on them you need to do 3 things:
1. Don’t just tell them the right decision to make, but live it, role model it.
2. Understand the reasons that those behaviors aren’t good and explain them to your child. Your explanations need to go deeper than “the bible says so” or “because you’ll get in trouble”.
3. Start equipping them with a concrete strategy so they can become better decision-makers. Teach them decision-making skills and the rewards and consequences they will experience physiologically (their brain chemistry), psychologically (their personality), and spiritually (their connection to and relationship with God). Knowing the benefits of doing the right thing will help motivate them to do the right thing.
Today, remember you don’t have to do it alone. Ask God for the courage, the strength, and the wisdom to train your children in the way they should go. Today, do some self-assessment and see how you disciple those God gave to you to mentor with decision-making skills.
Dear God, help me to guide and disciple my children so that they won’t make the same mistakes that I did. Help me to train them in the way they should go. Help me understand how You designed me and why I make the decisions I make. Help me learn how to make Godly decisions and teach these principles and motivations to my children. I pray this and all prayers in the name of the One You sent to train me in the way I should go, Jesus Christ;
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
The Lord your God will delight in you if you obey his voice and keep the commands and decrees written in this Book of Instruction, and if you turn to the Lord your God with all your heart and soul. This command I am giving you today is not too difficult for you to understand, and it is within your reach. Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him. This is the key to your life. And if you love and obey the Lord, you will live long in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
Deuteronomy 30:10-11, 19-20