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15 Ways to Please Your Husband

SOURCE:  Barbara Rainey/Family Life

Romans 15:2-3 tells us, “Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to his edification. For even Christ did not please Himself…”

Who is your closest neighbor?

Your husband.

How can you edify (build, improve) your mate and thereby enhance his self-worth?

By discovering—and doing—what pleases him.

If you are creative, pleasing your husband may be a natural part of your personality. But a less creative person may need some coaching in becoming a partner pleaser. And all of us need an occasional cue card to remind us to reach out.

Here are a few ideas–and with Father’s Day coming up, perhaps this week is a good time to implement one of these:

  1. Write him a letter and send it to his office, or put a love note in his lunchbox or briefcase.
  2. Prepare his favorite meal.
  3. Arrange an evening out for just the two of you.
  4. Wear his favorite dress with your hair done the way he likes it.
  5. Purchase something small and frivolous for him that he won’t buy himself.
  6. Give him a nicely framed picture of yourself, or of you and the children, for his office.
  7. Surprise him with an all-expense-paid trip to do something he likes, such as golf, fishing, or hunting trip.
  8. Put the children to bed early and prepare a candlelight dinner.
  9. Do something that especially pleased him when you were dating.
  10. Read Scriptures and pray with him regularly.
  11. Take walks together.
  12. Keep your junk out of the garage.
  13. Greet your husband warmly after work.
  14. Wear his favorite negligee or buy a new nightgown to add sizzle to your evening attire.
  15. Clean out the car for him.

Sometimes the smallest gestures can make the biggest difference in your marriage. Pick out something you haven’t tried before; don’t give complacency a foothold in your marriage relationship.

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20 Ideas for Dating Your Wife

SOURCE:   Family Life Ministry/Justin Buzzard

Men, you know your wife better than anyone else, and only you know how to best encourage and cultivate her as a woman of God. But sometimes it helps to build off other people’s ideas in order to form your own. Here are 20 ideas that I hope will spark your thinking about how you can date your wife.

1. Attend a wedding. Sit in the back row and spend the whole time whispering memories from your own wedding.

2. Make a list of 10 things your wife loves to do. Each new time you take your wife on a date, do one of those 10 things as your date.

3. Take up a new hobby with your wife; do something new that you’re both excited about.

4. Do the classic date: dinner and a show. Take your wife to din­ner and to a movie she wants to watch.

5.  Take a 12-month honeymoon with your wife. Relive your honeymoon by scheduling a 24-hour getaway for every month of this year. Each month go somewhere new with your wife.

6. Devote one hour each night for alone time with your wife. Talk about how your days went. Joke around with each other. Cultivate your friendship. Talk honestly about what’s going on in your lives. Help each other. Encourage each other. Pray together.

7. Mark your wife’s birthday, your wedding anniversary, and Mother’s Day on your calendar every year and plan to make those days special.

8. Write a love note to your wife. Tell her all over again what she means to you.

9. Spend an evening stargazing with your wife and talking about dreams you have for the future.

10. Spend an evening reminiscing with your wife about all you’ve been through together and all God has done and redeemed in your life together.

11. Devote the next month to studying a book of the Bible with your wife. Take 20 minutes several nights a week to read, discuss, and pray through a shorter book such as Ephesians or Philippians.

12. Visit your roots. Visit where your wife grew up and where you grew up. Learn more about each other’s backgrounds.

13. Hold your wife’s hand often, in public and in private.

14. Tell your wife that you love her.

15. Tell your wife that Jesus loves her more than you do.

16. Set a weekly date night. Each week rotate going out and stay­ing in for your date night.

17. Cancel work for the day and do something special with your wife.

18. Take dancing lessons with your wife.

19. Cut something from your schedule and use that time to date your wife.

20. Vacation with your wife without your kids, without your work, and without your cell phone and computer.

Adapted by permission from Date Your Wife, by Justin Buzzard, ©2012, Crossway Books.

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