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Suffering Consequences = Coming To Senses

Source:  Living Free Ministry

“When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired men have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you.'” Luke 15:17-18 NIV

Thoughts for Today
Robert and Gayle, Christian leaders in their church, were dismayed to realize that their son Eric had fallen in with the wrong crowd and had developed a drinking problem. After visiting a Christian counselor, they told Eric that they loved him very much but that he would be expected to live by house rules, obeying curfew and not drinking alcohol in their home.

Eric decided he would rather leave home. Devastated, Robert and Gayle pondered their decision, but chose to follow the example of the prodigal son’s father and let him go. They trusted God to bring Eric back and prayed for his safety.

Several months later, Eric returned home, desiring to change and ready for help. Suffering the consequences of his behavior had brought him to a point of repentance.

Consider this … 
Although they loved him very much, Robert and Gayle had not enabled Eric. They had not lowered the standards of their home, nor had they tried to rescue Eric after he made the decision to leave home. As difficult as this was, they recognized it was the best way to help him.

Are you ready to show this kind of tough love? Every situation is different, but God will give you the wisdom to know what you should do. And he will give you the strength and courage you need.

Prayer
Father, my loved one is walking in disobedience. Show me how I can help. If this means letting go and allowing the natural consequences to take place, give me the strength to allow this to happen–all the while trusting you to work in his life. In Jesus’ name …


These thoughts were drawn from …

Understanding the Times and Knowing What to Do by Dr. Jimmy Ray Lee.

Parenting: Discipline

SOURCE:  Living Free

Discipline your children, and they will give you peace of mind and will make your heart glad.”   Proverbs 29:17 NLT

Thoughts for Today
The Bible tells us to discipline our children. As in all things, we are to follow God’s pattern. He always disciplines us in love and is always consistent.

Emotional problems in youngsters are not so much a result of the type or amount of appropriate discipline given, but rather the lack of consistency. Our children need the security of knowing what their boundaries are and what will happen if they cross those boundaries.

Consider this … 
It is important that both parents agree on what behavior is acceptable and what is unacceptable. They must also agree on what type of discipline they will use when those boundaries are crossed. When parents cannot agree on these things, they should either try to reach a meaningful compromise or allow one parent to be responsible for discipline with the other parent offering support. Either way, parents should present a united front to the child. (This united front is important even if the parents have divorced.)

Consistent discipline is both appropriate and necessary in the training of a child. God disciplines us in love and wisdom. Let’s do the same for our children. “Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master.” Ephesians 6:4 MSG

Prayer
Father, help me to discipline my children consistently and in love and wisdom. In Jesus’ name …


These thoughts were drawn from …

Godly Parenting: Parenting Skills at Each Stage of Growth by N. Elizabeth Holland, M.D.

Parenting: Teaching and Training

SOURCE:  Living Free

Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6 NIV

Thoughts for Today
Consistent teaching and training while our children are young can help prepare them for whatever life may bring.

The old saying that actions speak louder than words is so true when it comes to teaching our children. The example we live has much more influence on them than anything we could ever say. Children learn by what they see their parents doing. Living a consistent godly life before them is the best training we can give.

Obviously, we all make mistakes. There will be times we set a poor example. But being willing to admit when we’ve missed the mark can be a positive lesson for our children.

Consider this … 
Teach your children a sense of responsibility, how to develop positive relationships and the importance of choosing godly behavior. As they grow, begin to allow them more freedom of choice in issues that won’t endanger them if they take some wrong turns. Even when they make bad choices, they will gain valuable insights and a deeper understanding of consequences.

Our goal as godly parents should be to help our children grow and develop in a way that is pleasing to our heavenly Father. Consistency is vital to this process.

Prayer
Father, help me to be more consistent in being a godly example to my children. Help me to be humble—and bold—enough to admit to them when I’ve erred. Help me to train them in the way they should go. In Jesus’ name …


These thoughts were drawn from …

Godly Parenting: Parenting Skills at Each Stage of Growth by N. Elizabeth Holland, M.D.

Parenting: Consistency

SOURCE:  Living Free

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” Hebrews 13:8 NIV

Thoughts for Today
God has given every parent a wondrous privilege and a great responsibility. Our goal as godly parents should be to help our children grow and develop in such a way that they will have healthy relationships both within and outside the family, and most importantly a personal relationship with God, the Father of us all.

But how do we do this?

The Bible teaches principles of godly parenting that will help us guide, direct and love our children. This week we will be looking at one general, but vital, principle: consistency. God is consistent with us—he consistently loves us, disciplines us and cares for us. And this must be our aim as parents—we must be consistent in all that we do with our children.

God’s relationship with us sets the pattern for our relationship with our children. We can always count on him to be consistent. Today’s Bible verse tells us that Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever. God loves us, is available to us, teaches us, disciplines us and blesses us—consistently. We can count on him.

Consider this … 
Our children need to know that they can count on us to be consistent, but consistency is difficult to develop and practice. Unlike our heavenly Father, we will not be perfectly consistent, but we can work toward the goal. It’s a process—and as we trust God, he will help us.

Prayer
Father, I thank you that I can count on you to be consistent. I know that you will never change, and there is such security in that. Help me to be a consistent parent … and to be consistent in all my relationships. In Jesus’ name …


These thoughts were drawn from …

Godly Parenting: Parenting Skills at Each Stage of Growth by N. Elizabeth Holland, M.D.

Healthy Discipline: Tips for Parents

SOURCE: Ron Edmondson

Here are 10 tips for parents on healthy discipline:

Goal set first. Proverbs 29:17 says, “Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.”  You should understand the reason behind discipline.  You are taking your children somewhere they need to go.

Never discipline in anger. You will say things you do not mean and do things you should not do. Discipline done is anger is rarely productive and usually harmful long-term.

At the time of need for discipline, remember this 3-step process: Stop/Think/Proceed.  The older your child gets the longer you can and may need to take with each step.

Be consistent in your discipline plan. It will mean nothing to the child otherwise.

Pre-think principles, but do not try to pre-plan specifics. You should have some  value-centered, character-based goals you want discipline to promote in your child.  You should avoid declaring what you will do when your child does something specific.  Don’t ever say, for example, my child will never wear his hair long.  You may regret those words someday.

Differentiate discipline for each child. To spank or not to spank should not be as big a deal as what works best for the child.

Do not make threats with which you are unwilling to follow through. Your children will catch on to that real quick.

Use age appropriate and action appropriate discipline. As a child matures the discipline should mature with them. At the same time, do not overkill a minor incident or ignore a major occurrence.

Always discipline the child for results. Discipline in its concept is not necessarily pleasant, but it reaps a reward if done right.  Hebrews 12:11 says, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

Discipline should never teach a child he or she is unloved. Actually, if done right, it should reinforce the love a parent has for the child. (Hebrews 12:7-10)

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