SOURCE: Taken from the Prepare-Enrich Newsletter
Spoiler Alert: It’s Not!
Self-care is taking time to care for yourself in whatever what makes sense for you. We often overlook self-care by thinking that it’s something only selfish people do and isn’t that important. However, the more I intentionally practice self-care, the more I see the positive impact on my relationship and I know it’s not a selfish act. Most importantly, I’ve found it allows me to be more present in my relationships because I took the time to make myself feel whole.
The problem with the idea of your partner being your “other half” is that you are unable to invest any part of yourself into your relationship if you aren’t whole. By reframing my thoughts around self-care, how loving and appreciating myself can create a stronger connection in my relationship, I have been able to overcome the negative stigma of “selfish self-care.” It’s important for me to take care for myself for mine and my partner’s sake.
Why Does Self-Care Matter
- Increases your emotional/mental well-being
- Allots time for you to take care of your physical self
- Gives you the energy to care for others
- Feeling positive about yourself gives you a better outlook on your relationship and life in general
How to Practice Self-Care
Simply take time to do something you enjoy, something that feeds your soul and inspires you. Here are some ideas:
- Journal – write down your daily thoughts in the morning or at night
- Volunteer – give back to others using your talents
- Cook – develop a new recipe, make your favorite dinner
- Be creative – draw, write, rearrange your living room
- Pamper yourself – get your hair cut, take a long shower, get a massage
- Spend time with family – look at old family photos, play a game
- Go outside – take a walk, jog, or go for a run
- Be active – go to the gym, practice yoga
- Eat what you want – drink water, eat your veggies, and eat your cake too (in moderation)
- Sleep – go to bed early, allow yourself to sleep in, take a nap