Soul-Care Articles: Christ-centered, Spirit-led, Biblically-based, Clinically-sound, Truth-oriented

SOURCE:  Adapted from an article by  Living Free

“Fathers, do not provoke or irritate your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.].” Colossians 3:21 AMP

Certain dysfunctional behavioral patterns often characterize the families of people with eating disorders. [We] are looking at five types of dysfunctional families (described in The Thin Disguise by Pam Vredevelt) that tend to foster these disorders. Perhaps you or someone you know has a loved one struggling with an eating disorder. Or perhaps you will identify some area of family relationships that you need to address in your family.

In healthy families, children are taught to excel, to capitalize on their strengths, to recognize their weaknesses and to recover and learn from their mistakes. In the dysfunctional “Perfectionistic Family,” each member must be an overachiever, never falling short in anything—standards that are, of course, impossible to achieve. This family has a need to be regarded as all good and picture perfect. They put great emphasis on family appearance. Focus is also often on body appearance. In perfectionistic families, children are told, “Just do the best you can.” But when they do the best they can, it is not quite good enough.

An expectation of perfectionism—in ourselves or others—is totally unrealistic and can lead to discouragement and frustration. [The above Scripture] cautions parents not to be too hard on their children—”lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated.”

God wants us to teach our children, to discipline them in love, and to motivate them to good works—but not to place unrealistic expectations on them.

Father, teach me to find the right balance in training my children in the way they should go. Help me to be wise and sensitive, helping them to understand how special they are and that you have a special purpose for their lives. Help me not to discourage or frustrate, but to encourage. I thank you for the patience and grace you extend to me—help me to show my children your kind of patience and grace. In Jesus’ name …

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These thoughts were drawn from …

Seeing Yourself in God’s Image: Overcoming Anorexia and Bulimia by Martha Homme, MA, LPC. 

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